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I didn’t stay on the corporate side long before being called over to Hall Strategies, but while I was there I did learn a tremendous lesson in having something thoughtful to add to every meeting, every question asked of me and every query for ideas.
From the moment I walked in the door, Jen was in my ear reminding me that when someone asked what I thought they actually did expect to hear my opinion. “Because if you don’t have anything to add, why are you here?” she’d quip. (She feels the same about peer-reviewing documents for folks, too.)
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve sat in meetings or strategy sessions with folks and they’ve never said a peep. Not a word. I’m not implying they should all be Chatty Cathy, but to contribute NOTHING? I just don’t get it.
And I’m not alone. An out of state friend told me several weeks ago that flacks from PR firm she contracts with kept bringing an extra woman to meetings and work sessions. “I can’t for the life of me figure out why she’s there. She’s never said one word and I have no clue what she does for us.”
Is this you? It used to be me before Jen showed me the light several years ago. Folks who know me are surely thinking, “HAHA! Like you’ve ever NOT had something to say, Margie.” And that’s true. I’m quite talkative, but I used to bring nothing more than a pen and paper to meetings. I was not a contributor because I was intimidated by the thought of saying something incoherent.
I was a task taker, not a strategy suggester. But people kept looking at me like, “um, why are you here?” So, I gave it a shot one day and found that folks were actually nodding their heads in agreement. It was a welcome value-add; it was a good feeling.
That day I gained the courage to be a thoughtful contributor. Today, I’m encouraging you to have something of value to add to the conversation, to bring something meaningful the table, to connect some dots for people.
Be a contributor! Ask the question others have not asked, or make a factual statement about logistics, finances or communication strategy. Not for the sake of saying something, but for the good of the project.
Nobody wants to the be mystery guest at the conference table.
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